Girlfriends- your best friend or your closest enemy?
Girlfriends
Women have always demonstrated a need for an elevated type of bonding with other women that usually is depicted as a special friendship called- girlfriends. What is a girlfriend though? Your best friend or your closest enemy? Or perhaps a dual functionality of friend and foe? When you find out your secrets have been exposed you may feel perplexed at the role your supposed girlfriend played in the matter. Did she protect your confidence like an armed guard? Or did she splash your infidelities front page like the Enquirer?
As an adolescent that girlfriend is the person whom you typically share your deepest and darkest secrets with. All those first crushes, first fibs, first indiscretions...are shared with that girlfriend. It is all so lovely at first as you talk about love, life, and dreams of the future. As you get older your nature of girlfriends change. Love, life, and dreams, have a way of developing their own script despite the images you conjured up. Let's face it...rarely does one plan to have a huge melt down, or flare-up, or broken leg, or move across town, or parents divorcing...these things just happen. Around this time is when you realize there is a penalty associated with this girlfriend thing. Different kinds of penalties but usually it boils down to private conversations being exposed. Things you said...that you never wanted anyone else to hear have somehow magically been repeated...and oftentimes not verbatim...more like twisted and mangled words-worse than a rear bumper colliding in five-o'clock traffic in Atlanta.
Heck, it happens...sometimes the damage is not so bad. You end up a little embarrassed and hopefully wiser about the situation. Or perhaps you have a big blow out type of falling out with your best gal pal and it seems like at this moment you will never get past this horrendous sense of betrayal. Relax, unless laws have been broken you will get pass this travesty. A two-timing ex-boyfriend, a pick pocket cousin, an overly tattooed bully at school....are all part of the obstacles and challenges we face in life. In fact, it is because of this craziness that we seek refuge with a girlfriend. We want to vent, let loose, tell all our business, ask for feedback...it is all normal. Until, you are the one that feels like you are on trial.
But is there a solution? Not an instant one. Just like it took a while for this girlfriend situation to happen it will probably take a while to understand what really happened and who really did or said whatever. Yet, despite the point you are in right now... the girlfriend bond is really a special thing. Not a perfect union because perfection does not exist. But having a girlfriend is like a rite of passage we all go through in different stages. Sometimes, we are burned and sometimes it turns out to be a lifetime full of precious memories. Share some of your girlfriend experiences? Good or Bad?
Women have always demonstrated a need for an elevated type of bonding with other women that usually is depicted as a special friendship called- girlfriends. What is a girlfriend though? Your best friend or your closest enemy? Or perhaps a dual functionality of friend and foe? When you find out your secrets have been exposed you may feel perplexed at the role your supposed girlfriend played in the matter. Did she protect your confidence like an armed guard? Or did she splash your infidelities front page like the Enquirer?
As an adolescent that girlfriend is the person whom you typically share your deepest and darkest secrets with. All those first crushes, first fibs, first indiscretions...are shared with that girlfriend. It is all so lovely at first as you talk about love, life, and dreams of the future. As you get older your nature of girlfriends change. Love, life, and dreams, have a way of developing their own script despite the images you conjured up. Let's face it...rarely does one plan to have a huge melt down, or flare-up, or broken leg, or move across town, or parents divorcing...these things just happen. Around this time is when you realize there is a penalty associated with this girlfriend thing. Different kinds of penalties but usually it boils down to private conversations being exposed. Things you said...that you never wanted anyone else to hear have somehow magically been repeated...and oftentimes not verbatim...more like twisted and mangled words-worse than a rear bumper colliding in five-o'clock traffic in Atlanta.
Heck, it happens...sometimes the damage is not so bad. You end up a little embarrassed and hopefully wiser about the situation. Or perhaps you have a big blow out type of falling out with your best gal pal and it seems like at this moment you will never get past this horrendous sense of betrayal. Relax, unless laws have been broken you will get pass this travesty. A two-timing ex-boyfriend, a pick pocket cousin, an overly tattooed bully at school....are all part of the obstacles and challenges we face in life. In fact, it is because of this craziness that we seek refuge with a girlfriend. We want to vent, let loose, tell all our business, ask for feedback...it is all normal. Until, you are the one that feels like you are on trial.
But is there a solution? Not an instant one. Just like it took a while for this girlfriend situation to happen it will probably take a while to understand what really happened and who really did or said whatever. Yet, despite the point you are in right now... the girlfriend bond is really a special thing. Not a perfect union because perfection does not exist. But having a girlfriend is like a rite of passage we all go through in different stages. Sometimes, we are burned and sometimes it turns out to be a lifetime full of precious memories. Share some of your girlfriend experiences? Good or Bad?
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